How to meet people and make connection

 

How to meet people and make connection
 

It is always difficult to meet new people. Sometimes we have a lot of people or acquaintances who have the potential to be a good friend in our life, it is just that we are too lazy to do anything about it and we let these people slip away. So here are a few ways to meet new people.

             You could get to know people through your friends. When you are meeting someone through your friend, chances are the person has the same interest as you and may be more trustworthy of character. You could also throw a party or an event and ask your friends to invite their friends. This would enlarge your social circle!

              You could also always turn your workmates into a potential friend. If you do get along with them, ask them out for lunches or for drinks after work. This will allow some bonding time for all of you.  Furthermore, having a friend at work could make your work place more bearable.

            Join classes such as bible classes, dance classes or art & craft classes etc. Both of you are there for a common interest and being in the same class may serve as the ice breaker you need to get the conversation started. Once you get the conversation started, you could start going for classes together or go for dinner together or a cup of coffee together after your class.

            Sign up for a club or an organization such as a hiking club where you will instantly know a group of people who share the same interest as you. You can also start your own book club and have your very first meeting in your own home.

            In conclusion, meeting new people may be intimidating and scary but persevere, because we are not made to be lonely. So, get out there and start meeting new people!

Maintaining friendship after you couple up.

 

Maintaining friendship after you couple up.

 When a single person finds love and transits into a couple relationship, most of the time, their relationship with their friends might take a downhill turn. There’s the honeymoon phase where the couple spend madly in love with each other, ignoring everybody else. In the process of that, they neglect their own friends. So here are a few tips on how to keep your friendships after you couple up.

 Firstly, don’t go on and on about your new partner. Sure he is great and all but going on and on about your new partner is not going to help your friendship with your old friends. Although they would be supportive of you and your new found love, don’t bore them to tears with every little bit of detail that is happening in your love life. This brings us to the next point.

 Don’t get mad if  your friends don’t like your new found love. Sometimes your new found love may not be your friend’s cup of tea. So don’t be so quick to get mad at your friend and start burning bridges. Instead listen to what they have to say carefully and treat their opinions with respect. They may be seeing something that you in your love blind status are not seeing.

 Next don’t force your single friends into a double date. Now that you are in a couple’s relationship, it is only normal you want everybody to feel the way you do. So you set up some double date for your single friends, in hopes that they too will be able to feel the bliss that you feel. If your single friend agrees to go along with it then it is alright. But don’t sneak up a surprise double date on them. This might turn out well or it could go disastrously wrong. Worst case scenario is you have one couple of lovebirds on one side of the couch whilst another two individuals sitting sullenly glaring at you.

 Furthermore, remember not to cancel on them. Never ever cancel on your old friends for your new found love. This is one of the major reasons that friendships fall apart.  If there has been a routine hangout for you and your friends every week, don’t cancel on them. Your partner can wait. Your friends are more important.

 In conclusion, you need to remember your friends were there for you before you found someone, and they will be there for you if your new relationship didn’t work out, so appreciate the friends that you have because good friends are difficult to find.

Keeping old friends : 4 useful tips

 

Keeping old friends : 4 useful tips

 

They say it takes years to build a friendship but it may take only a split second to destroy a friendship. So here are a few ways on how to maintain your old friendship.
 
Firstly, make a decision about which of your friends are short lived and which would last a lifetime.  Keep in touch with your lifelong friends. Call them once a month or twice a month. Remember the special dates in their lives like birthdays or major anniversaries. There is no such thing as not being able to find time for your friends. If you don’t have time, create time for them.
 
Remember to be a good listener. Listen to their problems and give them advice when needed. Display your understanding in a non-judgmental way. If all they need is a shoulder to cry on, then offer them yours. Celebrate their success with them and be there for them during a hardship. You shouldn’t be a fair weather friend.
 
Plan activities at least once a month like a dinner so you all could catch up. Go for the occasional movie together or have some sport activities together. Or you could also organize sporting activities that will involve your friends like a game of basketball or tennis every Tuesday night. Even better, you could get both of your families to have dinners together. Get your spouse involved too. Make them a family friend! This ensures that you are always in each other’s lives.
 
You also need to be willing to help your friends in times of trouble. Think about it this way, if you were in the same situation, you would hope that your friend would do the same for you too.
 
Most importantly, try as hard as you can to keep in touch with them. They have been there with you for your whole life. So appreciate the friends you have now because good friends are difficult to find.

Making friends: Step by step guide

 

Making friends: Step by step guide

 

            For some making friends may come naturally but for others, it may be long and painful process. This is especially so if you are shy and socially awkward. Don’t worry if you are like that. Try reading our step by step guide on how to make friends.

 

Firstly, you got to put yourself out there. If you want to make friends, first you need to get out of the house. If you don’t put yourself out there, you are never going to have the opportunity to meet new people. So switch off the idiot box, get off the couch, put on something nice and start meeting people!

 

Secondly, you should join a social activity. Join classes that will enable you to know more people. For example, if you have always been interested in dancing, now is the time. Join a dance class. There you will be able to meet people who have the same common interest as you and you will be able to make new friends.

 

Thirdly join sports. You don’t have to be good to join a team. You could always sign up for basketball or tennis. You could then organise basketball games with your friends every week. In addition to keeping yourself tip top condition, you are also having an amazing bonding session with your team mates!

 

            Fourthly, volunteer for a cause! Volunteering is a great way to meet new people while working towards a good cause. By working together with other people, you may meet others who have a passion for the things that you care about too. So what are you waiting for?

 

            Lastly, when meeting new people, be a good listener. When somebody is telling you their story, don’t try and top their story by telling a story of your own. Listen intently when the person is talking and don’t interrupt them. Remember all the important details about them and ask questions about their interests. You will come across as a good listener which is an extremely sought-after quality in a good friend.

 

So, what are you waiting for, try these few steps yourself and start making friends!