Maintaining friendship after you couple up.

 

Maintaining friendship after you couple up.

 When a single person finds love and transits into a couple relationship, most of the time, their relationship with their friends might take a downhill turn. There’s the honeymoon phase where the couple spend madly in love with each other, ignoring everybody else. In the process of that, they neglect their own friends. So here are a few tips on how to keep your friendships after you couple up.

 Firstly, don’t go on and on about your new partner. Sure he is great and all but going on and on about your new partner is not going to help your friendship with your old friends. Although they would be supportive of you and your new found love, don’t bore them to tears with every little bit of detail that is happening in your love life. This brings us to the next point.

 Don’t get mad if  your friends don’t like your new found love. Sometimes your new found love may not be your friend’s cup of tea. So don’t be so quick to get mad at your friend and start burning bridges. Instead listen to what they have to say carefully and treat their opinions with respect. They may be seeing something that you in your love blind status are not seeing.

 Next don’t force your single friends into a double date. Now that you are in a couple’s relationship, it is only normal you want everybody to feel the way you do. So you set up some double date for your single friends, in hopes that they too will be able to feel the bliss that you feel. If your single friend agrees to go along with it then it is alright. But don’t sneak up a surprise double date on them. This might turn out well or it could go disastrously wrong. Worst case scenario is you have one couple of lovebirds on one side of the couch whilst another two individuals sitting sullenly glaring at you.

 Furthermore, remember not to cancel on them. Never ever cancel on your old friends for your new found love. This is one of the major reasons that friendships fall apart.  If there has been a routine hangout for you and your friends every week, don’t cancel on them. Your partner can wait. Your friends are more important.

 In conclusion, you need to remember your friends were there for you before you found someone, and they will be there for you if your new relationship didn’t work out, so appreciate the friends that you have because good friends are difficult to find.